The Answers Come To You Only In Silence

You've been trying so hard to find answers. Gratitude journals. Motivational videos. Tarot readings. Talking to friends who mean well but don't really understand. Even the counsellors only seem to bring you around in circles of emotions that you want to move on from.

Everyone has something to say about your life. Everyone has an opinion.

Your (ex-)husband's family thinks it was your fault. Your family thinks you should try harder. Your friends back home say you need to think of your child. Your colleagues keep asking if you're okay with that concerned look that makes you want to disappear.

Beneath all those voices, your own thoughts are shouting over each other. Am I a bad mother? What if I can't survive on my own? What if this is just... it?

The noise is unbearable. Yet, you keep listening, because you just can't tune it out.

Why Silence Feels Like The Scariest Thing Of All

Or, because sometimes the silence feels scarier than the noise. 

The anxiety gets louder. The fear takes over. As you attempt those guided meditations on an app, you sit there wondering if you are doing it "right" while your mind raced with a cascading waterfall of everything you're worried about. 

It feels even worse when you are alone with your thoughts.

Well, don't be then. Don't be alone with your thoughts. There is a way to confront those thoughts, so we know how to get rid of them, without being alone with them.

That way is - you can share them with me, and I'll guide you on what to do with them.

The Three Things Silence Teaches You

Silence can be very useful - if you know what to get out of it.

1. You Already Know What You Need

Deep down, you know this marriage is truly over. You know you can't trust him again. You know you need to go.

But you've been so busy listening to everyone else's opinions that you've forgotten to listen to yourself.

Silence reminds you that you're not confused. You're just scared to admit what you already know.

2. Your Worth Isn't Up For Debate

In the noise, you hear all the voices telling you what you should be: A good wife. A devoted mother. A respectable woman who doesn't give up on her marriage.

But in silence, you remember something crucial:

Your worth isn't determined by whether you stay married or get divorced. It's determined entirely by you, because you're the one writing this story and living this life.

3. It's Okay To Move On

This might be the hardest one.

Everyone keeps telling you to fight. To try harder. To think of your child. To save the marriage.

But in silence, you hear a different truth:

It's okay to be done. It's okay to want freedom. It's okay to choose peace over staying.

Letting go doesn't make you a bad mother. It doesn't make you a quitter. It makes you human.

How To Find Your Own Silence - The Safe Way

Did I mention I can help you hold a safe, silent space for you to deal with those nasty thoughts? 

We're going to sort out which voice belongs to you and which doesn't. We're going to look at these in the eye, call out the lies and keep the truths. We're going to sieve through all that noise, throw out the rubbish and tidy up what's in your mind so you can get true inner peace.

If this sounds good to you, let's talk?