Keeping It Together

Breaking the myth of the perfect educator and discovering self-worth beyond the classroom As educators, we often hold ourselves to impossibly high standards. We believe we must be perfect role models - people who have it all together, who make all the right choices, who exemplify wholesome lives without complications or messy emotions. Divorce, then, feels like celestial punishment when it happens; it becomes a source of deep shame, making us feel unworthy of standing before our students. But let's pause for a moment. Read that expectation again. Doesn't it sound utterly ridiculous? We would never demand such perfection from our colleagues, our friends, or even our students. So why do we impose this unrealistic burden upon ourselves? The Moment Everything Changed Years ago, when my divorce was still fresh, I found myself in an ordinary moment that would teach me an extraordinary lesson. I was waiting with a 7 year-old student for her parents to arrive. As we chatted about holid...

For every mother who's sobbed in the shower so her children won't hear, wondering if choosing yourself means failing them. The Question That Keeps Every Divorcing Mother Awake At Night It's 2 AM and you're staring at the ceiling again. Tomorrow, your daughter has her end-of-year English exam. You should have helped her revise, but instead, you spent the evening navigating lawyer emails and trying not to cry in front of her. The guilt is crushing: "Am I ruining my daughter's life?" You replay every moment - every tear she's seen, every family dinner that's now awkwardly silent, every time she's had to comfort you when it should be the other way around. The voice in your head whispers: "She'll never recover from this. She comes from a broken family now." But that's just what you think. What the voice isn't telling you is this: Your daughter isn't watching you fail. She's watching you survive. The Truth In Y...