Keeping It Together

For every mother who's sobbed in the shower so her children won't hear, wondering if choosing yourself means failing them. The Question That Keeps Every Divorcing Mother Awake At Night It's 2 AM and you're staring at the ceiling again. Tomorrow, your daughter has her end-of-year English exam. You should have helped her revise, but instead, you spent the evening navigating lawyer emails and trying not to cry in front of her. The guilt is crushing: "Am I ruining my daughter's life?" You replay every moment - every tear she's seen, every family dinner that's now awkwardly silent, every time she's had to comfort you when it should be the other way around. The voice in your head whispers: "She'll never recover from this. She comes from a broken family now." But that's just what you think. What the voice isn't telling you is this: Your daughter isn't watching you fail. She's watching you survive. The Truth In Y...

It is 24 December. While other families gather for Christmas, you sit alone in your flat. Your 20-year marriage has ended. School starts again in two weeks. You are not ready. You walk into your classroom each day with a smile, you have your lesson plans, and you speak in your calm "teacher voice." But no one sees the 3am panic. No one knows how your heart sinks when you think about your visa. Will you lose your job? Will you lose your home? Will you lose the life you built here in Singapore? You're Not Nailing It - You're Crashing Research shows that maintaining a "brave front" in the classroom while navigating these challenges can lead to profound emotional exhaustion and burnout. You know this. You have an urgent, nagging anxiety within you that tells you something needs to be done. But you just don't know what and how. Being an expat educator in Singapore means your life is built on a foundation of "keeping it together." But when your marri...