Nobody is descending from the heavens to save you from your marriage woes
People think that if they just wait long enough, things will get better. That time heals all. Seriously, this statement irks me. What in the world made us believe that? If nothing different is being done during this ‘time’, why would anything change? Time doesn’t magically heal things. We do. Just because you have found a way to tolerate your husband, and the arguments and coldness don’t pierce your heart as much anymore - perhaps you’re even crying less because you’ve gotten used to the infidelity - doesn’t mean you have healed. It just means you have stopped caring about how you feel (because it hurts too much). And the more you try to ‘keep it together’ in this manner, the more you are breaking down inside. Waiting is not a plan - it’s avoidance. I believe the trending term we use these days is ‘trauma bonding’. The Reality You're Living In You’re an expat teacher going through divorce. Your visa depends on your job. Your job depends on you holding it toge...